Polyamory

This is something I came across whilst watching the Ricki Lake show. Before then, word ‘polyamory’ wasn’t in my vocabulary. But you lot seem like smart people so you’ll probably already know. If you don’t, it has a really simple meaning. It is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. So basically, it means you can be in a relationship and STILL have sex with multiple partners, just as long as your partner knows about it and approves. I think this is really fascinating and definitely has pros and cons about it. Before I continue writing, I must say that people are entitled to do what they want and I would never judge people’s actions.

Here’s my biggest question: why would you allow your partner to have sex with someone else with your consent? I don’t understand it. My man is MINE, I don’t want to share him. To be honest, I don’t think my boyfriend would have the guts to ask me if we could have a polyamorous relationship. Forgive my lack of expert knowledge on this topic but isn’t this what many people call an ‘open relationship’. But it sounds a bit more glamourised because you’re giving consent. I understand that many people want a healthy sex life and some people like a bit of ‘variety’, if I can call it that. There must be other ways though. Apparently, most of the polyamorous couples are in long term committed relationships. I don’t have statistics so don’t quote me on that.

Let’s say I were to go ahead with this type of relationship, how do you approve your partner’s choice?  What if my boyfriend chooses someone sexier and slimmer than me. I’m sure I would be jealous. I think the point that I’m trying to get my head around is jealousy and emotions definitely get involved. As a man or a woman, it’s your job to sexually satisfy your partner. But if they having sex with other people they are either greedy or unsatisfied with your performance. I can’t express it enough, I DON’T UNDERSTAND.

I think it’s easy to get into this type of relationship, but it must be hard to get out of it. Like when it is enough? What happens if you change your mind but your partner wants to continue? I think that’ll cause a lot of hassle and headache. I think it’s a hard decision to make, definitely a decision I wouldn’t be prepared to make.

My next point is slightly off topic but I also heard that Islamic men can marry up to four women as long as they treat them equally. Is that possible? I don’t think you can treat them equally and I think the main reason for that is because women are usually more emotional than men. As a woman, I can only imagine how it feels to have ONE girlfriend, let alone FOUR. Different religions and cultures have different ways of living. Some which we may see fit, others, well maybe not.

Like I’ve said before, it’s up to the individual but I couldn’t be in a polyamorous relationship myself. My boyfriend is my boyfriend. He’s should’t even be looking at other women, let alone even thinking of having sex with another woman. However, it’s a really interesting type of relationship that I will be doing some homework on. I would love to find people who actually enjoy it and get their opinions on the whole situation. Remember: have fun and stay safe.