I don’t think this post needs any introduction. My heart and sympathy goes out to the family of the soldier who was hacked to death in Woolwich, London, yesterday afternoon. It kinda knocked me back after watching the incident make breaking news. It’s shocking to see how others treat others. No one is safe these days. It just goes to show that you never know what is around the corner. There are a lot of sick, disgusting things that were unfolded yesterday which makes the incident EVEN WORSE than it is already is. I think it’s the reason WHY the attack happened which has angered everyone. Note: these are my opinions. You may not agree with them but you can’t tell me I’m wrong because this is what I THINK. However, I would appreciate any comments you may have.
Timing
The incident took place around 2.20pm in the middle of the afternoon. It’s broad daylight. There’s no getting away from the fact that the attackers may be seen. For it to happen in the middle of the street is pretty disgusting. They knew what they were doing, which makes it even more sick. They made no attempt to flee the scene which baffles me. I understand they had a reason for it. I’m not justifying it. But this was’t the time or the place and it definitely wasn’t the way to get the message across.
Another point of timing that I have to make is that it took 20 minutes for the police to arrive on the scene. I understand they are busy and there are other crimes they have to attended to but it is completely shocking that the media and camera crew got to the scene before the police did. The attackers used this time to preach a message, justify why they did it. I can’t say it enough, but that it sick, vile and disgusting.
Racism
Someone on Facebook had posted a screenshot of Twitter. The words hurt. They cut deep. There’s a lot of ignorance in the world when it comes to religion and race. Some people refuse to learn the difference especially when it comes to Asians. There’s a big difference between Indians and Pakistanis, if you choose to learn about it. For those who don’t, everyone gets painted with the same brush. On twitter I saw a lot of tweets consisting of “pakis this” and “pakis that”. Sorry to burst your unnecessary racist banter but the attackers were black. Come on people, you really can’t be THAT stupid can you? I can’t do anything but shake my head in disgust.
race war on twitter
A lot of white English people were defending the country effing and blinding at non-english people. Muslims were defending their religion, saying that not all Muslims are terrorists. Indians were fighting to say that this attack has nothing to do woth their race and religion. Black people were arguing that they are always portrayed in a bad light and this incident had made it worse for them. I understand that everyone wants to defend their own but there’s becoming a bigger divide between races. It was hard enough overcoming this in the riots of 2011 but to bring it within the community again is a shame. I honestly believe, and have said this many times before, that the INDIVIDUALS should be blamed for the crime. Their race and religion has nothing to do with it. Never has, never will.
Religion is not an excuse
I have previously published a post with the exact same title. It definitely applies here. Many terrorists who commit acts such as these have said that it is written in the Quran. I have never read the Quran so I can’t say for sure but the people who I have spoken to have said it’s NOT written in the holy book. So who do you believe? Where is this message being spread? Who started it? These are questions I cannot answer but either way, it does not, in any shape or form, excuse the acts of these people. Murder is murder, regardless of whether or not it’s written in the Quran or if Allah expects/wants you to do it. Using religion to justify violent and deathly acts like this is inexcusable.
Media
I am a strong believer of saying that you shouldn’t let the media overtake your thinking. Judge for yourself rather than acting on what you see and hear on the news. I’m going to say something which may cause arguments and heated debates but oh well. Whenever a crime is committed by a non-white person, I feel like there is an emphasis on their race and religion. However when a white guy commits a crime, the media will never say “a white, Christian man/woman”. When Asians are highlighted in the media, their religion is always mentioned. This is something I don’t agree with. As previously stated, individuals are accountable for the crimes. Their religion/race has nothing to do with it.
There’s many other little points to raise but I will keep this post short. If I have comments to this post, then I will certainly address them.
This is something I came across whilst watching the Ricki Lake show. Before then, word ‘polyamory’ wasn’t in my vocabulary. But you lot seem like smart people so you’ll probably already know. If you don’t, it has a really simple meaning. It is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. So basically, it means you can be in a relationship and STILL have sex with multiple partners, just as long as your partner knows about it and approves. I think this is really fascinating and definitely has pros and cons about it. Before I continue writing, I must say that people are entitled to do what they want and I would never judge people’s actions.
Here’s my biggest question: why would you allow your partner to have sex with someone else with your consent? I don’t understand it. My man is MINE, I don’t want to share him. To be honest, I don’t think my boyfriend would have the guts to ask me if we could have a polyamorous relationship. Forgive my lack of expert knowledge on this topic but isn’t this what many people call an ‘open relationship’. But it sounds a bit more glamourised because you’re giving consent. I understand that many people want a healthy sex life and some people like a bit of ‘variety’, if I can call it that. There must be other ways though. Apparently, most of the polyamorous couples are in long term committed relationships. I don’t have statistics so don’t quote me on that.
Let’s say I were to go ahead with this type of relationship, how do you approve your partner’s choice? What if my boyfriend chooses someone sexier and slimmer than me. I’m sure I would be jealous. I think the point that I’m trying to get my head around is jealousy and emotions definitely get involved. As a man or a woman, it’s your job to sexually satisfy your partner. But if they having sex with other people they are either greedy or unsatisfied with your performance. I can’t express it enough, I DON’T UNDERSTAND.
I think it’s easy to get into this type of relationship, but it must be hard to get out of it. Like when it is enough? What happens if you change your mind but your partner wants to continue? I think that’ll cause a lot of hassle and headache. I think it’s a hard decision to make, definitely a decision I wouldn’t be prepared to make.
My next point is slightly off topic but I also heard that Islamic men can marry up to four women as long as they treat them equally. Is that possible? I don’t think you can treat them equally and I think the main reason for that is because women are usually more emotional than men. As a woman, I can only imagine how it feels to have ONE girlfriend, let alone FOUR. Different religions and cultures have different ways of living. Some which we may see fit, others, well maybe not.
Like I’ve said before, it’s up to the individual but I couldn’t be in a polyamorous relationship myself. My boyfriend is my boyfriend. He’s should’t even be looking at other women, let alone even thinking of having sex with another woman. However, it’s a really interesting type of relationship that I will be doing some homework on. I would love to find people who actually enjoy it and get their opinions on the whole situation. Remember: have fun and stay safe.
It’s a must that I write about this. I was fascinated when I saw the documentary film of Catfish and am loving the TV series on MTV. Catfish was originally based on an American guy who build an online friendship with a girl who had sent him a painting of one of his photographs. This hen turned into an online relationship where he began to fall in love with her. She even introduced him to family members. He started researching more about her and began to doubt who she said she was. He and his brother travelled to meet her to confront her. When they got there, she was FAR from who he thought he was talking to. It was an interesting plot to the film. This prompted the television series which follows the stories of young couples who have fallen in love online but have never actually met face-to-face.
Some people have argued that Catfish could be a a hoax. To be fair, I think it’s a bit silly. Can you REALLY fall in love with someone that you haven’t met? We are all told about the dangers of Internet dating. Different strokes for different folks but I couldn’t do it. I always think I’m that rare case where I’ll meet a man who is a murderer or a rapist or something even worse. But I do know of a few successful turn outs but it’s hit and miss of who’s on the side side of the computer. Don’t get me wrong, I speak to some of my Twitter followers and ALL of them live overseas. It’s general banter, nothing sexual but I would NEVER think of trying to meet up with them or starting a relationship. It’s common sense for me but different people have different views. Each to their own really.
In the first episode, there was a beautiful woman who was speaking to a male model online. She’s fallen in love with him and was even thinking of marrying this guy. With the help of Neev, the presenter of the show, she went to meet him. Boy, oh, boy, was she disappointed. This male model turned out to be a chubby lesbian woman. It was a shock but I actually found it quite funny. They asked the lesbian why she was pretending to be someone else. The reasoning behind it is amazingly funny yet ever so stupid. She said she had an argument with another female online and wanted revenge so she created a fake Facebook profile to get her excited. I didn’t quite understand the logic behind her explanation but she must be a bit crazy. I just about find time to do the stuff I want to do. I don’t have time to pretend to be someone else. What could I possibly gain from it? The truth always gets out.
Moral of the story: Think twice before you get really close to someone online. I really don’t wna be seeing you on Catfish!
Is chivalry dead? This is a question that had me baffled for a while. A lot of women are flattered when men open doors for them, pull their chairs out and so on. I kind of agree with it, to a certain extent. I’ve watched a few old films with my mum, you know the black and white type of films. There’s loads of different acts men will do for women, such as:
Opening the door
Tipping his hat as he says hello and goodbye
Carry heavy objects
Giving up a seat
Walking on the outside of the pavement
Chivalry will always be debatable with equality around, why can’t a woman open the door for herself? She would if she was alone so why would she need a man to do it for her? I hate people pulling the chair out for me. I’m more than capable of doing it myself. Plus I like to tuck the chair in under the table according to my own comfort. I’m a nuisance that’s why. But if I need help, especially when it comes to carrying heavy things, DIY, opening jars and so on. This makes me believe that there is a slight difference between equality and chivalry, it’s so alike and yet so different, in my eyes.
There’s always talk about why can’t pregnant women stand whilst on public transport, why do they always expect someone to give up their seat for them? If I really have to answer that question, then you know there’s something very very wrong with this world. To rile people up even more, expectant mothers are starting to wear a “baby on board” badge. I think it’s quite funny to be fair. But rest assured pregnant women, I would offer you a seat . . . But I don’t use public transport very often so I’m safe hahaha.
I personally see the above-mentioned as generous acts, but not a necessity. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a feminist, and yes it’s nice to be pampered but I don’t class it as chivalry. I see it more as generosity. If you can see I’m struggling to carry something heavy, help me out. Common sense really. I wonder if chivalry has ever BACKFIRED against a man. Maybe I should Google it.
I’m not a great fan of Primark. It’s way too cheap, dirty, messy and crowded for my liking. However they sell amazing socks really cheap. Let me expand on the point that I made about it being too cheap. I mean that the quality of the clothes aren’t very good so I’d rather spend more money in another shop on less items, rather than buying a new wardrobe full of Primark clothes. No offensive to anyone who shops there but it’s not my cup of tea. I was passing the shop the other day and thought well winter is here so I might as well stock up my socks. What a massive mistake I made. Why do people take ages to grab a basket from the front of the shop. It’s the entrance, not an invitation to a mother’s meeting. GET OUT THE WAY! I’ve got things to do and you lot are just getting in the way. Another thing I hate about the shop is the way that everything is on the floor. That’s disgusting. Someone is going to buy them clothes so I don’t understand why people trample all over the clothes. Bunch of idiots.
One of my biggest pet peeves are mothers with prams. If you cant control them, then you should just stay home. They are constantly in the way and are always ramming the pram into the back of someone’s feet. I’m usually in the right mind to tell them to watch where they are going. Just because you have a baby and a pram, it’s not your God given right to abuse me with it. They tend to stand in the way of the aisles. I’m not being rude but park your damn pram in a proper place. What should be a 5 minute trip turns into an hour of battling with people.
Right, I’ve finally made it to where I need to be, I choose all my items and take it to the tills. OH MY GOD! Is this for real? The queue is so long. I get tired just looking at it. Do I really want to join it? Should I just leave my items behind? I might as well join the queue seeing how I struggled to get to the point in the first place. I must have been in line for about 10 minutes before I got served by a POLITE woman. This actually shocked me. Usually I get served by someone rude so it was nice to have a pleasant woman serving me. What the hell is wrong with her? I would be so annoyed if I had to work there so I was wondering how does she seem to be really jolly serving demanding customers. Either way, it made my day and to be fair, I couldn’t care less. There would have been hell to pay if she was rude to me. But bless her little socks, she seemed nice. I think Santa will definitely be paying her a visit.
They say manners don’t cost anything which is why I feel the need to share one of my encounters with you all. I parked my car in a carpark today. That sounds a bit silly when I said that. Well I wouldn’t park my horse there would I? Anyways, back to my story, as I was walking back to my car (with time still left on my ticket), there was a woman standing at the ticket machine. I asked her if she wanted a ticket and she was so rude to me. Her exact words were “I know how to use a machine”. It’s not WHAT she said, it’s HOW she said it. When I explained to her that I still had time on my ticket remaining, all of a sudden her attitude disappeared and was more than happy to take my ticket. TYPICAL! I could’ve been really cheeky back or could’ve been polite and given her the ticket. Instead, I was filled with sarcasm and replied ‘you don’t need it, you know how to use the machine”. The look on her face was classic. There is no way I would allow anyone to be rude to me when I was trying to be nice. And you jolly well won’t get any freebies from me either.
Mums. Dads. We love them but they do get on our nerves sometimes, don’t they? Their hearts are in the right place but sometimes their mouths aren’t. I think it’s their job to moan at us and it’s our jobs, as kids, to rebel against them. My parents do my head in sometimes, so demanding at the best of times. But truth be told, I do love them even though I rarely ever show it. A friend of mine once said “You only appreciate your mum when you become a mum yourself”. That’s a line I will never forget. It made me think about all the times I argue with my mum. I’ve got all this to come when I have kids myself *dreading the thought* I could make this a funny, ha ha make your belly hurt from laughing type of post but I think I should be honest and caring. My mother is a REAL WOMAN. She has worked so hard in life for everything that she has and taught me that there is nothing wrong with being an independent woman and standing on my own two feet. She’s the one I turn to when I want to discuss my future. She may not agree with my decisions but always makes me think twice about everything because she never wants me to regret anything I do in life.
My dad, on the other hand, is the complete opposite but he defines what a REAL father should be like. I’ve always said that anyone can become a father but it takes a real man to be a dad. Thats why I love my dad. He’s not the guy I turn around to and tell all my problems to, either would I ever expect him to fix my broken heart. Instead he’s always been there for me whether I needed a tap on the back or a kick up the arse. Plus he always washes my car for me. What more could I ask for?! I bet you’re jealous now, aren’t you? *giggles*
Maybe it depends on your upbringing, but I actually feel sorry for children who don’t have both parents in their life. I couldn’t imagine my life with my mum and dad but then again some parents don’t deserve their children. There’s so many young parents out there, parents who are young enough to be a child themselves. I actually blame society and people’s lack of sense for the rise of births. Can you imagine me with a child? My dad doesn’t think I’m responsible to look after a puppy. To be fair, he doesn’t even think I can look after myself.
Parents, hey? You have to love them. They’ve made me who I am today. Even though they have created a girl who laughs at her own jokes and comes out with really stupid things.
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